Here there be monsters (socratic) wrote,
Here there be monsters

Sentimental Reasons

People at my job keep telling me how much they love me. Not as in "I want you to rock my world" but like "We really love you, and want you to do X for us after this project is over."

It creeps me out.

I don't go to work to be loved. I go to make money, and to contribute to society or the company or whatever. Praise is fine, but I'd much prefer "You did a really great job" than "We love you." I feel like I'm being judged as a person for the work I do. If I fuck up does that mean they'll start hating me? I get along with my coworkers, and I don't have a bad word to say about any of them (At least not MANY bad words) but I'm far from loving any of them. I haven't even spent any time with them outside of work. How can you love someone when your interactions with them are restricted to talking about work stuff or joking around?

The use of that word bugs me. I feel like I'm being pressured to say "I love you guys too." That would come off as creepy or insincere. Is this something about a female run environment? Are they more relationship and feeling oriented rather than results oriented? Is that a sexist theory?

In other work related news, I got two recruitment emails from a big fancy investment firm. They were both based on my college grades. The first one said they wanted me. The second one said they really wanted me, and how could I not respond to their first email when they wanted me so very badly? And did I have any friends they could also want?

I responded to the second email saying I'd be happy to interview with them, but I wasn't sure I was who they were looking for because of (X, Y, Z.)

They haven't responded. Not even to say "Yeah, you're not a great fit, good luck!"

I feel so used.

Can't we turn back the clock to a little bit of a more formal workplace, where people tell you they like your work rather than you personally, and corporations have the decency to send out form rejection notices after flooding your email inbox with recruitment letters? I'm not emotionally prepared for this kinder gentler workplace.

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