This also holds true in terms of achievement. Doing something worthwhile while in a vacuum brings a pretty shallow sense of success. Part of the benefit of doing worthwhile things is that you can say that you've done worthwhile things. It's not just so that worthwhile things will be done. People inspire eachother and all that jazz and accomplishments are more meaningful when shared.
Hokay...so so far I've just been boring you all with axioms. "Wow Ben, what's next, are you going to proclaim the sky blue? The Clouds white? The children important?" Well no. The thing is that everything I just said is true, but it isn't the whole picture. I mean there's nothing particularly selfish about wanting to share experiences or accomplishments, part of the point (which I intentionally didn't mention earlier) is not just to increase your own enjoyment but to observe someone elses. However in our society relationships and companionship tend to be framed in particularly selfish terms. People are out to get their needs met and to deal with their own issues and desires. But sharing a sunset should be about SHARING a sunset. It should partially consist not just of deepening your own understanding of it but also of watching someone else experience the same reaction. And that seems to be getting left out these days. This is important because while a large number of people can serve as adequate foils for increasing your enjoyment of experiences or your own accomplishments there are much fewer who make the sharing aspect worthwhile. And it is the mutual building of eachother and investing in eachother that will make a relationship truly work and last. After all if you're just in it for yourself what's to stop you from jumping ship when a better option comes along? There's no rational reason why you shouldn't. But if you're out to better and build and invest in the other person, well then clearly starting over is not as attractive as staying where you are.
Anyway this is the logic I use when I'm lonely and thinking about relationships and all that jazz. I'm not sure why I put it down but I've been reading a lot of random stuff and a pretty solid theme throughout much of it is that the family has broken down and that this is a terrible thing blah blah blah. I think that the reason that the family has broken down is that somewhere along the line we started to focus too much on personal benefits and ironically in doing that destroyed some of the great joys of relationships and of being WITH other people. Conservatives say that a lack of chastity is the problem but I'm not so sure it is (althoughn I don't like it). I think the inherent issue is that when marriage was forever people had a reason to try to work with and improve their mate and that mutual support and attempted building of a relationship and eachother often lead to love even if it wasn't there to begin with. Now people act like other people are static interchangable parts in a car and keep looking for the most efficient one. This comes in part from focusing only on the tangible benefits to oneself because improvement of the other is no longer neccesary.
I don't know, I'm EXHAUSTED and rambling but I think somewhere burried within my exhausted brain is a point. Perhaps if I can ever get some damned sleep I'll be able to fish it out.